Alpha Dominance

Owen’s FiberOne Commercial

This commercial struck me because it perfectly illustrates the attitude of female dominance portrayed in the media.  Here we have this hapless chump, played by Owen Smith, who is dutifully throwing out his cereal because his wifey told him to.  He likes it, but Mama knows best.  I don’t think I need to tell you where I’d tell her to shove it if my woman tried to tell me what to do.

This is the difference between an Alpha and a Beta.  If a woman asks me to do something for her nicely, I will consider it.  If she tells me what to do, in no way will I accommodate her even if she later takes a more conciliatory tone.  Your response connotes your place in a social hierarchy and reinforces your status.  If an authority like my boss, or the president tells me to do something, I will comply with a “yes sir”.  If a subordinate or equal tells me to do something, I’ll refuse.  If you wish to consider yourself a man, do not take commands from your wives, girlfriends, children, pets or others clearly not your superiors.  Don’t encourage such dominance posturing with any sort of compliance (nor passive aggressive feminine resistance), but with a clear rejection.

One of the most effective things I’ve said to a woman in such cases is “Don’t take that tone with me, _______”.  It works wonders.  As she stands there with her mouth agape the old childhood conditioning from her father kicks in and reinforces your position as a man rather than the wuss-child she’s testing you to find.  It’s the equivalent of a cognitive scatterbomb disrupting her state and creating receptivity.  Such things that cause subconscious association with the father are powerful because on a deep level our parents still retain a shroud of omnipotence.  When grown, we realize they are only human, but part of us still reveres their dominance through years of conditioning provided we had a relationship with our father.  If a woman did not have a strong father she longs for that benevolent patriarch archetype and this too will be your ally.  Strong, cool and rational is the way to handle all things.  Impassioned responses and bickering or justification imply uncertainty of your place in the social hierarchy.