Single Mother Baby Boom
Pathetic; I’m appalled. Clearly we’ve lost any semblance of concern for the well-being of the child in this Nation, despite its being used as the justification for default paternity judgments and other such malfeasance.
It turns out that 2007 saw the largest number of babies ever born in America, and worse, 40% of them were to single mothers; this is unconscionable.
More babies were born in the United States in 2007 than any year in the nation’s history, topping the peak during the baby boom 50 years earlier, federal researchers reported Wednesday.
There is both good and bad news from the more than 4.3 million births:
The U.S. population is more than replacing itself, a healthy trend. However, the teen birth rate was up for the second year in a row. The birth rate rose slightly for women of all ages, and births to unwed mothers reached an all-time high of about 40 percent, continuing a trend begun years ago. More than three-quarters of these women were 20 or older.
For a variety of reasons, it’s become more acceptable for women to have babies without a husband, said Duke University’s S. Philip Morgan, a leading fertility researcher.
Even happy couples may be living together without getting married, experts say. And more women — especially those in their 30s and 40s — are choosing to have children despite their single status.
The new numbers indicate the nation is experiencing a baby boomlet with fertility rates higher in every racial group. On average, a U.S. woman has 2.1 babies in her lifetime. The highest fertility rates were among Hispanics.
What are all of these women thinking bringing children into the world without the involvement of a father? It is not fair to the children. Boys need a father to grow up to be men, and girls need a father to grow up without a daddy complex. Divorcees are another matter as when they made the decision to have a child they also had a husband, and we might make an exception for committed couples who are not legally married, but all the others should be finding a man before having a child. These figures highlight the fact that for most people having a child is a selfish act arising from the need for self fulfillment. These children are pawns in the game of check off the life-goal as played by their mothers, particularly when it is a late thirties woman seeking to have it all while skipping the find a willing husband part.
Lest the tired old saw about men being not accepting their responsibility be put forward, let me remind you that women bear the ultimate responsibility for the choice of whether a child is conceived or born. Women have a dozen or more forms of birth control, the morning after pill, and abortion as options. Yes, men ought to always wear a condom; however, being the least effective form of birth control it should be viewed as a backup at best.
Women should not be having sex without an effective form of contraceptive they themselves are responsible for taking, unless they intend to have a child with a man whose consent to paternity they have obtained. Furthermore, women have the backup option of having an abortion. While this shouldn’t be your primary form of birth control, it is a choice preferable to bringing a child you cannot support and provide opportunities for into the world. The statistics bear this out (citations at the linked site):
These statistics translate to mean that children from a fatherless home are:
- 5 times more likely to commit suicide.
- 32 times more likely to run away.
- 20 times more likely to have behavioral disorders.
- 14 times more likely to commit rape
- 9 times more likely to drop out of high school.
- 10 times more likely to abuse chemical substances.
- 9 times more likely to end up in a state-operated institution.
- 20 times more likely to end up in prison.
This applies to couples too, though to a lesser extent. If you cannot afford a child and provide it better than average opportunities, you aren’t doing the child any favors by bringing it into the world. We live in an increasingly competitive world in which lacking a college education is a serious handicap and the current economic climate is getting worse. Unemployment will soon breach the 10% mark, college education, health care, food and energy costs have skyrocketed, and massive inflation of the money supply will eventually translate to even higher prices while the increase in unemployment will further depress wages. This is not the time to reproduce unless your finances are in far better shape than the average American.
But what’s this? You don’t believe in abortion you say? Why is this, because of your religion? If so, I imagine your religion also has taken a position against pre-marital sex. Bear in mind that religion is not an a la carte proposition. You can’t pick and choose which tenets of your religion to follow on a whim. If you accept the religion, you accept the whole package and must live accordingly unless you are a hypocrite. Those who hide behind religion to avoid abortion, yet engage in pre-marital sex, are simply using it as an excuse. If they had the strength of conviction they would not have sex in the first place. Since you won’t be having pre-marital sex if you are religious, the question doesn’t apply to you anyway right? For those not bound by religion, abortion is legal, and clearly it is not in the interests of the child to bring them into the world without a father as shown above. Do the responsible thing and prevent the pregnancy in the first place, and if you are adult enough to have sex, be adult enough to terminate the pregnancy if one occurs.
Ladies, disabuse yourselves of the pay to play model for sex. Just because a man has sex with you does not obligate him to marry you. He doesn’t owe you an eternal debt of gratitude simply because you had sex with him. He doesn’t owe you anything except the experience you shared. Men who do not consent to have a child with you do not owe you anything beyond what is proscribed by law. If they have taken efforts to prevent pregnancy and made it clear to you that they do not want a child, do not be surprised if they want nothing to do with you if you unilaterally decide to have one anyway by sabotaging or lying about contraceptives. If you successfully delude them, you will obtain child support, but don’t expect anything else. Many women take an absurdly maternalistic attitude about this, lying about being on birth control and then trying to use the pregnancy to hold an unwilling man hostage, as if she should be able to tell him what to do without his input. This is both deceitful, and demonstrates the depth of your insecurity in that you can’t attract a man to willingly marry you and sire your children, but must entrap him instead. Stop having children you can’t provide well for and dooming them to a life of mental health issues, low status, crime or a host of other social ills.
Men, if you end up in this position, do not marry her for the sake of the child. An ill conceived union will ultimately fail and having married her you will be that much more subjugated to her whims. Do not fall victim to the myth of “doing the right thing.” Women are emancipated and deserve to live with the consequences of their decision just as we do. They are not entitled to special rules. Paternity fraud is the one legal form of fraud in this country and an astounding number of women will intentionally become pregnant through lying about birth control or even sabotaging it to get leverage over you or get at your income. This is the reason somebody came up with putting Tabasco in their used condoms. If she tries to impregnate herself with it you will know it by the banshee shrieks emanating from the bathroom. Contest unwanted paternity immediately and get a paternity test. You will have at best, one year from the birth of the child to contest paternity. If you are contesting, do not get involved in the infant’s life or you may lose the right to contest. Get an attorney, do exactly what is required by law, and move on with your life. Limit your loss to child support, take it as a lesson learned and get the hell out.
Damn, what a sad state of affairs.
Reading shit like this is just depressing.
Solid information, though.
Indeed. Don’t mean to bring you down tho’, just empower you with the information to be aware of what you’re up against.
Thankfully I just got confirmation a couple of weeks ago that an aging sperm-sponge had not succeeded in creating a replicant of me without my prior knowledge.
Desperate to cash-in before her impending biological cash-out she, a professional, thought she might try her hand at the solo route since she had the money but not the hope.
Men need to be made aware that with women’s lib comes a very alarming disbalance in the natural order.
Exactly. A perverted combination of the “a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle” ideology of radical feminism, an archaic legal precedent (pre-DNA paternity testing) based on women being delicate flowers who must be provided for, and the ancient female biological imperative to reproduce at any cost before it’s too late prevails today. Like I said, those women who use this as a justification to unilaterally reproduce without the man’s consent is committing a selfish act for her own fulfillment. Whether she needs a man or not, her children will. Children need the balance of a healthy male/female dynamic to grow up balanced themselves, and to form essential emotional connections they need to be healthy and become effective parents themselves one day. It is a weird product of our relatively egalitarian society that women can even consider raising children without a man. In a more traditional one she’d never be liberated enough to develop this conceit.
This doesn’t surprise me at all.
I have noticed an incredible increase in the amount of young girls that have children as opposed to 10-15 years ago.
- MPM
Yeah, which is unfortunate, but it also said there are increases in the upper end of the age range too. Lots of professional women who can’t be bothered to get (or can’t attract) a husband before having children. Poor kids.
BTW, I thought I should at least throw in a piece I wrote about that crazed chick. http://ninjahobo.com/?p=446
Better still, was the insane reactions I got from a couple of feminazis regarding that diatribe. In fact, one response was so uhm, ‘lively’, I felt compelled to make a post out of it. http://ninjahobo.com/?p=533
To tell you the truth I had a great time and I hope that black widow read all about it.
it’s interesting to note that Female HISPANIC headed families earn more than Black female headed families….despite things often times a LANGUAGE barrier. wow.
Benedict,
Overall Hispanics have a fair work ethic. Add to that the fact that many are here illegally, so they have to work to survive since the gov’t won’t pay their freight, and I’m sure that explains their higher average.
I am a 32 year old single mother to two boys. It was not by choice. I did not have any control over their father not being here, but I do have control over my kids. They make straight A’s. They are respectful. They are responsible.
Just to clear things up, just being someone is raised by a single parent does not mean they are going to be a problem to society. If you instill values in your children, it will show.
Thank you.
One must do the best one can if events beyond your control put you in that position. Nothing here is meant to malign widows and others who did things right but still experienced misfortune. This post is targeted at women who have children willy nilly without being married to the father first and with his blessing. Regardless, however, your children now do have a higher probability of certain issues in life whether you have values and do a good job or not. I would say you have influence over your children, but not complete control, none of us do. Children are human beings with their own thoughts and flaws, not entirely within the realm of control. I applaud you effort to raise them right nonetheless and I wish you luck.