Alpha Dominance

Hate alphadominance?  Ha, you’re not alone.  Frankly my dear, I don’t give a damn.  One mark of the Alpha is complete disinterest in whether others approve of them.  Leaders don’t exist to seek other’s approval.  That is the behavior of a character riddled with insecurity.  This trait of unshakable confidence is deeply alluring to others.  This is the power of frame control.  Personally, it is far more meaningful to me to make people think than to tiptoe around hoping not to offend.

People hate being confronted by uncomfortable truths.  For someone deep in denial the response to rocking the foundation of their misconceptions is vitriol and hatred.  Yet once they see the truth of the matter, the hostility fades and they grudgingly admit that they have learned something valuable and are better for having the veil lifted from before their eyes.

A perfect example is the response by commenter BeautifulThings to my post “Did You Marry Your Mother?.”  Just look at the change in tone from intense hatred to grudging acceptance and appreciation for opening her eyes to how men really think.  Note that she seems to have some confusion surrounding my identity; having found alphadominance via bulletproofpimp, she seems to have mistaken me for Sgt. Raymond, whom she claims to know, visit his site here.

BeautifulThings

Hey,

I started out reading your other site “Bulletproof Pimp” and got to this one following a link. The next guy I meet that’s like you is going to end up in the psych ward with his pockets like rabbit ears. I’m taking him for ALL of his shit because I see how your minds work. I don’t care if he’s not really an asshole and he’s just like misguided. It won’t stop. I’m going to make him wish he had a chick that really cared for him or that he had been good to his wife.

Dude, u have a SERIOUS problem. Like you’re really fucked up in the head to be judging people’s moms (!!!). And whoever you hang out with that lets you do that is the only fag! Reading your blog its like men are these idiot fucking-driven animals without souls who deserve chics pinning fake babies on them and running their pockets for child support.

All people like beautiful things, its natural. But dag, its got to be more to life than that. Its got to be. You have depressed the shit out of me seriously and I feel sorry for humanity having read your blog.

I’ll tell u something else. You have a serious misconception about who “Alpha Males” are and what women want from them. Nobody wants some poser motherfucker treating you like shit. Just be yourself. I used to go with a guy that was a BIG DOG at Merril Lynch. Now, I’m sure he doesn’t have half of what he used to have. He called me for my birthday to hang out. He is totally superficially and a materialistic asshole. Do you think I want to hang out with him now or that I give a fuck what he’s going thru to want to chill with him? I’d rather go dutch with someone cool or even treat him before I go out with him because he’s an asshole.

And, since I first started dating, all though I never wanted to go out with married guys, I’ve always had the bad luck of fake married creeps pretending to be someone they’re not and lying about everything that came out of their mouths. The most pathetic thing in the world is when one of them tells you he’s cheating because his wife is fatter because she had kids or because she doesn’t want to have sex as much as he does. To me, that’s because he’s not all that. That’s like if you had a really good friend and they were supposed to be your ace and you lost your job or something and they stopped wanting to be your friend. It’s like 40 year old black guys shopping demos and wearing their hats backwards. For real? Come on dude!!!!

Do you think women like being fat when every thing is telling them that to be worth shit as people they have to be “hot” even when they’re like 35. Women go thru so much with our hormones and especially with getting pregnant. Its so many girls I know that won’t stop taking Adderall because it makes them not eat even though its making them suicidial and totally crazy. Do you know how many girls do things like leave their babies with ANYBODY to go to parties or to the gym because they’re priorities are so freaking screwed to the left? Why, because there no stages in life anymore. Like every woman has to act like they are permanently 20 to get a man, then once they get him they have to break out the porno playbook and let him do her in every hole so in a few months or whatever he can basically dump her for a new chick to do the same thing. What’s in that for us, except to be ran thru by the time we’re like 30 if not even younger. You think chicks are so dumb that we haven’t figured that out yet?

When you meet an older man and he has his family and his wife is like a queen, you feel like awe for him. Its like he’s noble and a God or something. Especially when his wife is STILL in love with him. Look at how chicks SWEAT Obama. His wife is pretty more because she has style than her face but she doesn’t look like she has had a bunch of plastic surgery or like she’s a bimbo or trophy wife. She’s like this super smart woman and he can not only get on her level, but he’s the fucking PRESIDENT dude and he’s in love with her!!! That’s so beautiful as opposed to like Donald trump with his orange blown out clown wig on or whatever. He is so insecure that he needs a new wife with the tags still on her every so often to get the approval of other insecure lames.

When you meet this old guy and he’s trying to fuck with 20 year old girls and buy their affection because he has more money than guys that are younger, its like he’s just a lame. Another thing, girls ARE NOT attracted to older men unless they have emotional problems or they’re running game on them to get stuff. A dude with this trophy wife type of ho on his arm is trick or a closet fag, on the low. Trust. She would not be with him if it was JUST him and he couldn’t buy her whatever she wanted. The only people who think Hugh Hefner is cool are fanboys!!! If you have to PAY to PLAY you are a john, dude!!! Who wants a nasty wrinkled up, little wee wee old man on you? Those chics with him would be walking the track if they had a different pimp, thats how they are looking at it.

Another thing: One of my girls was going with this older man that was spending all this money on her. He would take like eight of us to Bed, Stereo, or like Key West and Ocho Rios. We didn’t have to even bring our purses because he paid for EVERYTHING, hotel, food, drinks, even bathing suits and personal stuff if you needed it. He kept pressing her to commit to him when she really needed to be single because she was making her daily bread doing videos so she had to mingle to meet artists and get work. He was spending CASH like it was nothing and totally sweating her. One day, this lady calls my friend’s phone and starts cursing her out, calling her names and beefing. Come to find out, dude is not only married but he owes freaking child support for his other kids and they have all of these bills and problems with their mortgage. We lost ALL respect for him.We don’t even say what’s up when we see him somewhere now. He was still trying to get her to see him, telling her all this awful shit about his wife. Meanwhile its like you don’t have any priorities, you’re like a glorified bum.

All you are doing with your website is setting guys up to get played like tricks. When you’re young, you should be trying to find a partner I think. You should be like learning who you are and finding someone that you want to grow with and do stuff with when you are older and someone you can trust who is not going to be brainwashed into thinking men are supposed to do this or that but will like you for YOU. And do the same for her.

And dang, let moms be moms. Take this pressure of these women and let them worry about raising their kids and actually being GOOD moms. It’s like a vicious cycle. Instead of being in a phase where she could just chill and enjoy it and actually read the labels of the food she’s feeding her kids and the crap she’s letting them watch on tv, women have to be worrying about getting their hair and tits done and staying sexy so she can have the father to help her with her kids. For real? That’s so fucked up!!! That’s why all these women are all depressed and freaking crazy. They should punish all you lames by not having your kids and letting you all DIE OFF!!!

I just took like two hours to write this and I don’t care if you delete it as long as I said something. You need to start meditating or do yoga or something, bro. Your soul is a hole. And stop saying effed up shit about like other dude’s wives and moms before somebody punches you in the face.

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Wow, you really told me all right. Methinks you doth protest too much. Got much baggage? I’m shocked the guys aren’t lining up to bask in your charming personality. I’m damn near speechless, but not quite. I’ve always said haters are a sign you’re doing something right and obviously I struck a nerve. I wouldn’t wish your hatred and vitriol on my worst enemy.

Alpha males don’t have to pay to play, that’s the sign of a loser, and nobody recommended men go around cheating on their wives. If someone doesn’t like their marriage they should have the balls to get out of it before dating around, and I’ve always maintained that. I’ve never advocated deception either. Be straight up about what you want and eliminate those who want something else from consideration. If you have a problem with those principles you should seriously reevaluate yourself. As for keeping oneself up or letting oneself go, we all have that choice. If you choose to let yourself go then you stand a very real chance of having your partner lose interest because none of us fella’s marry you expecting you to go to shit. Aging is one thing, laziness and apathy are quite another.

BeautifulThings

Is all criticism automatically “hate”? You sound like Souljah Boy right now. Like people say his music is shitty and rather than make good music or counter back that his music IS NOT shitty, he says they’re “hating” on him. Whatever!!!

“I wouldn’t wish your hatred and vitriol on my worst enemy.” Oh, wow. Dude grow a pair.For all the Hoist the Black Flag New Prince! stuff you’re talking, that little bit of ranting was soooooo overwhelming you wouldn’t wish it on you’re WORST enemy? You sound like you take karate with the little kids!!!

Be for really, you’re advocating just a childish and juvenile and counterproductive mentality. I read thru both of your sites and you come across like marriage is the worst thing, it’s all about looks and dudes like Donald Trump and Hugh Hefner are some kind of role models. The article I’m commenting on is talking about people’s MOMS for crying out loud, calling them “cattle class” and fugly and having someone introduce a girl to you and you right off like “Dude, you can do so much better.” before she even opens her mouth. That’s just DUMB.

I don’t advocate anybody let themselves go, for their own health. I worked for a cardiologist for a while and he told me that probably 90% of the obesity he’s seeing is because of how convenient life has become and something called high fructose corn syrup thats in EVERYTHING. There’s more to it but he said women’s bodies can’t process it correctly. Maybe it would be more useful for attack it from THAT angle rather than acting like women are sitting around rubbing their hands together going “Can’t wait to get fat! Can’t wait to get fat. I’m going straight to shit ASAP!”

I don’t have man problems and never will. EVER. I like men, REAL men and they like me just fine bro. Like I said, thanks for the insight. I’ll pay it forward : ).

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The next guy I meet that’s like you is going to end up in the psych ward with his pockets like rabbit ears. I’m taking him for ALL of his shit because I see how your minds work. I don’t care if he’s not really an asshole and he’s just like misguided. It won’t stop. I’m going to make him wish he had a chick that really cared for him or that he had been good to his wife.
Sounds like hatred to me, and no, this is precisely the shit I’ve been warning men against and wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. You clearly have a grudge against the male gender in general. You are, by your own admission, someone any man with sense would wish to avoid if they had full disclosure.

I have only one site, this one, I don’t know what other site you are referring to unless it bulletproofpimp which is run by someone else. We merely link to each other.

This mentality is counterproductive to women who wish to control and use men, but if she’s mature she knows how things work as does a mature man such as myself. Read your biology: men care about looks first and foremost. Women don’t like this, but it’s a fact grounded in evolutionary biology. You women judge each other on appearance as well, that’s why you get so catty when a more beautiful woman is around. Here’s how it works at the heart of it, women practice hypergamy and desire men of means and status, the men with the best genes, the alphas. Men seek the best, healthiest and most fertile wombs for their offspring and prize beauty above all because it is a proxy for strong genomes, health and fertility. Not everyone can get the best so water seeks it’s own level. We all do the best we can in pairing off, so most have to compromise. The highest status men and the most beautiful women don’t have to compromise, the rest do, plain and simple. If you are looking for higher meaning in life you won’t find it in biology. Mother nature is impartial, cold, calculating, and mercenary. Even where altruism appears to exist its merely an adaptation to perpetuate one’s genes.

There’s nothing dumb about thinking a friend can do better. Ever had a girlfriend who supported one of those deadbeat slacker musicians and paid all the bills? She could have done better and you probably told her so. Or a friend who dated a married man, or an abusive man? Ever tell one of them they could do better? There’s a reason we rank people on a desirability scale and you do it too. I’m certain you’re not an equal opportunity dater, though your criteria may emphasize appearance less than other qualities that women prize in a mate.

Like I said, you protest too much, what might your stats be dear?

Regarding obesity, I’ve already addressed it from several angles, but knowledge of nutrition and doing what it takes is the prerogative of the individual. None of us metabolize HCFS well, so stop eating processed food and cook for yourself with whole food ingredients and the problem is solved. Ignorance is no defense as they say:
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BeautifulThings

My stats? Post your email and I’ll send you my Facebook or Myspace so you can see for yourself. In general though, I’m 5′7″, 135lbs. My father is Cuban and my mother is Chinese and Puerto Rican. I am a mixture of both of them and brown skin. I don’t speak Spanish, not even a little bit. The other thing is you KNOW one of my sisters by name. Send me your email and you’ll see who she is on my pages.

Since coming on your site today, I haven’t done anything else but follow links and read, read, read. I still think your mentality sucks but I can honestly say what I learned today HAS CHANGED MY ENTIRE LIFE.

I have been dating and going with and talking to quite a few men but I never really thought about like where any of these relationships would lead. I tend to date men based on where they can take me and how much they gas my head up. So serious. I take it for granted that if a man looks that good or has this or that, chances I got to him first are slim to NONE. And I have it as a rule that I will never compete for a man. I’ve gotten into so much shit with crazy baby mamas and wives and stalkers in my life and I always feel like I come out on top in these situations if the man is still chasing me after I tell the other woman I don’t want him and he’s all hers. Believe me, we’ve made an art of this. If the lady is disrespectful at first, even if I pretend to be her friend I always do things like forward her email messages he sends me after the confrontation with little notes like “You deserve better, girl.” like three months later when I’m sure she’s forgiven him and thinks everything is cool.

The only dudes I really let my hair down with are guys that will permanently remain in the friends category. The only men I respect and admire like I said before are older men that have their shit together , the career, the beautiful queenly wife and successful kids type thing. I never really thought about what a man wants in a woman, because I felt like I knew. I just got my mind blown by this post: http://therawness.com/the-perfect-woman-a-how-to-guide/

I’ve been feeling this whole time like I’m not going to worry about getting married till I’m in my thirties or forties and I won’t have kids until then either because I am living life right now. After reading that though, its like Dude…Biology might have other plans.

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Since coming on your site today, I haven’t done anything else but follow links and read, read, read. I still think your mentality sucks but I can honestly say what I learned today HAS CHANGED MY ENTIRE LIFE.
Ha Ha, love it, what better endorsement is there than this? By the way if I or many of the guys who share my opinion were so thrilled with the prototypical female mentality we wouldn’t be doing this. We think (your former?) mentality sucks too. I’d far rather make you think and enlighten you as to what men really think than seek your approval. T on therawness is a wise man, I recommend reading more of his posts. Our deep-seated evolutionary drives that reside in the reptilian brain operate subconsciously but dictate far more human behavior than the conscious rationales we use to justify them. Knowledge of this arms us to be more empowered in how we live our lives. If you can see your own handicaps you can overcome them.
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Beautiful Things commentary redux. She wussed out. No facebook profile, no myspace. Maybe she fudged the stats a little perhaps? I guess we’ll never know.

Check out that about face.  She went from near homicidal hatred to the position that what she learned in a few short hours changed her entire life.  The veil was lifted and she saw male opinion truthfully for the first time apparently.  This is powerful evidence that women have a vast gulf of misconception separating what they think men think from the actuality.  For this I largely blame men.

Most men fail to realize that supplicating women and telling them what they want to hear is preventing men from achieving what they want out of relationships.  Like most men won’t know what a given woman likes in bed unless she tells him, women won’t know what men want unless we trumpet it from the battlements.  It’s time to stop deceiving ourselves and our women gents.  You will get far more mileage from being unrelentingly straightforward about what you want than from simpering tentatively about hoping that by telling a woman what she wants to hear she will be lulled into a false sense of security about your intent.  Women want to get laid.  Broadcast your sexuality to one and all (except perhaps in the workplace due to harassment claim potential).  Make women immediately aware that you intend to have them.  This is the secret of players and pimps.  Women want a man who is wanted by others.

Women respect a man who is brutally honest.  If you don’t want a relationship, tell them, it will only make them want you more.  If you don’t want monogamy, don’t pretend to, tell them you are banging other women and intend to continue doing so.  They will lust after you all the more.  If you think marriage in America is a sham, say so.  By doing this you will eliminate the women who genuinely want the white picket fence and most of the probability of finding a rabbit’s head boiling on your stove or your tires slashed.  At the same time you will aid women in better understanding and coming to terms with what men want.  Together we will enlighten females to the true nature of men and perhaps we can begin to reverse the pussification of the American male.

As it stands today men are acting out what they think will get them female attention, but they are woefully mistaken as to the true nature of women.  Society teaches us that women want relationships as a precursor to sex.  It teaches us that women will resist your advances, and this is true, if you act like a woman.  It is far from true however if you act like a man.  It is far from true if you have internal and external congruency between your avowed desires and your actual desires.  It is far from true if you are a congruent man.  Be such a man.  Be an Alpha male.