Alpha Dominance

 

There are even odds that your wife or girlfriend would knowingly tell you that you were the father of her pregnancy by another man in order to keep the relationship going according to a survey of 3000 women.  She thereby provides support for her offspring by the man she deems the most suitable provider and father.  “No, not my girlfriend, she’s not that kind of girl” you say.  Well hold on there tiger, you might as well play Russian roulette with your future as unquestioningly believe your partner will always be faithful, let alone tell you when she wants to make the product of her affair your problem.  Hell, the odds of a negative outcome in Russian roulette are only 16.7% per spin, far less risky than 50/50.

“You must be deluded” you are probably thinking but according to a 2004 survey of 5000 women (by far large enough to be statistically significant) in the British Isles this is precisely the case. 

 

HALF of all women would lie to their husbands or partners to keep their relationship going if they became pregnant by another man, a survey said today.

Figures showed one woman in two would not tell her man that the baby she was carrying was not his – if she wanted to stay with him.

They also said four out of ten (42%) would lie about contraception in order to get pregnant, in spite of the wishes of their partner.

The new survey of women’s attitudes to truth, relationships, and behaviour, said the overwhelming majority (96%) admit to lying.

In addition, women are more likely to disguise the truth when they think they can get away with it.  This means if she can convince you that she’s not “that kind of girl” and you are gullible enough to buy it, she has further incentive to mislead you.  This 2003 study found a supposed lie detector caused women’s claims about their number of sexual partners in the past to nearly double even when being disclosed on an anonymous survey.

Women are more likely than men to lie about their sex lives, reveals a new study. Women’s coyness about their sexual behaviour was unveiled by a US study involving a fake lie detector test.

In surveys since the 1960s, men typically report having more sexual partners and than do women – a statistically impossible feat. For example, British men boast an average of 13 partners over a lifetime compared with an average of nine partners for women.

Scientists previously explained this anomaly by suggesting men were exaggerating their tally, while women were understating their total. But now Terri Fisher at Ohio State University and Michele Alexander at the University of Maine suggest that men are in fact more truthful in such surveys.

Women change their answers depending on whether or not they believe they will be caught out not telling the truth, the researchers found. The number of sexual partners a woman reported nearly doubled when women thought they were hooked up to a lie detector machine.

So what does all this mean?  We are often told that women lie to protect other’s feelings, and indeed, this is often the case when it comes to the little white lies of social lubrication.  Similarly men are portrayed as being “dogs” that couldn’t be counted on to be faithful if their nuts depended on it.  These rogues must be doing something much worse and in greater numbers to have garnered this reputation right?  Well it is true that men lie most often to make themselves look good.  Classic machismo at it’s finest and we all see through this for what it is.  But is it really that harmful?   In comparison with lying to defraud a man with misattributed paternity, a decision that if uncontested within the first year here in America, could result in his being saddled with years of child support payments at the least, and quite possibly an unhappy marriage, divorce costs and alimony, all based on this false pretense.  I say this is criminal and is yet another reason that mandatory paternity testing is justified. 

Men lie, too, and a few may be devious con-men filled with malevolent intent.  But it’s hard to imagine what men could possibly lie about that would compare to this degree of Machiavellian sophistry, and certainly the number of men who would resort to such egregious lies is far less than 50%.  Compared to this sort of sophisticated manipulation of a man’s emotions and the dire financial consequences entailed, men’s lies are typically meager buffoonery. 

Unquestionably such lies are intentional and intended to profit from the deliberate capitalization on his trust and love.  Such a betrayal is indicative of how readily many women justify their own desires and needs, clearly placing them ahead of their supposed love’s own interests.  According to this book, “Tripping the Prom Queen” as summarized in this article modern society forces women to lie.

Female lies are easy to spin
Women justify how they profit from a lie, using it as their armor and shield.

This falls into the “greater good” theory, a safeguarding of family or ourselves, and therefore has an ethical explanation. There are many instances where women feel comfortable not only with their secrets but with the lies begotten for these secrets. In a patriarchal culture, our secrets and lies can strengthen us, get us through ordeals.

Even though we are raised to be “good girls,” women are quite invested in having secrets.

When it comes to mothering, rivalry, and status, we’re willing to lie, to distort the facts, to twist the truth. Women choose this path when it aids them in their ambitions. Oftentimes our own mothers have taught us to operate this way.

Women are adept at having secrets and choose to have secrets.

A woman lies with intentional deception because she is convinced of the exigency of her lie. A woman instinctively perfects her lie, which offers the advantage of not being detected or criticized. A female lie appears much more satisfying than a male lie.

It blames the ”patriarchal culture” supposed to be so prevalent today.  I take issue with this assessment as female pandering and excuse making.  In the society where women are the most free in the world, there is no excuse for such treachery.  No matter how you spin it, it is enormously unethical to throw her love’s interests under the bus in furtherance of her own agenda.  Such malfeasance may be the realm of politics, or international intrigue, but not the stuff from which healthy sustainable relationships are made.  The excuse that she does it to “spare his feelings” rings mightily hollow to me.  I myself could not love such a woman and would wish the most punitive punishments our justice system could mete out for anyone who successfully defrauds me of what would amount to hundreds of thousands of dollars and a quarter century of my life on false pretences.  Sadly such crimes go unpunished today and even when the man finds out it’s not his child after the first year, or if he is married to the woman, he cannot contest the responsibility.  Bear in mind that the law states any child of your wife is your child and obligation regardless of genetic relation.  If you and your wife share the same race, and your child is born another race, you have no right to contest paternity under present family law even if you divorce her on this basis.

Another book by the same author, Susan Shapiro Barash, titled “Little White Lies, Deep Dark Secrets: The Truth About Why Women Lie” states that women lie both more frequently and more cleverly than men.  Quoted in this article, she states:

Women lie more frequently than men, and they’re much more clever about it and talented at it, to boot, a new book concludes.

In “Little White Lies, Deep Dark Secrets: The Truth About Women and Deception,” Susan Shapiro Barash cites an online survey of 500 women in asserting that females fib about everything from love, to money, to plastic surgery.

Women are also much more prone to telling “little white lies” to try to keep from hurting someone’s feelings, Barash contends.

All of this together lends credence to the idea that women in America, and indeed in developed nations everywhere, are not held to the same standard that men are.  Despite their supposed oppression, the laws, culture and public opinion tends to both protect them and enable them at the same time.  The courts bear this out all the time, and clearly the opinion of the masses is that they can be forgiven their “little transgressions” such as fraud, on the grounds that women have it so hard in this culture.  What with equal opportunity, affirmative action, greater access to education and higher salaries for the same jobs and education level, plus the full backing of the courts and presumed credibility compared with the presumed guilt of mankind everywhere, these claims ring hollow. 

Consider this sort of paternity fraud in comparison with the Monica Lewinski scandal.  That scandal nearly resulted in the impeachment of the president, despite their conduct not being a crime.  Both were consenting adults, nobody was hurt except by the embarrassment of the media response.  How did we get to this state?  I’m all for equal opportunity but that comes with equal responsibility and accountability.  If these women are, as I believe, our intellectual equals, they are entitled to bear their fair share of the downside of emancipation; accountability and equal treatment under criminal law in addition to employment law.  If you doubt feminists are more concerned with getting an advantage than equality, consider this: How many marches on Washington have women conducted advocating the draft for women?  People, we can’t have it both ways, we need to give both genders equal rights and protection under the law, including legal accountability.

Like most things this widespread, there is of course a genetic basis for this seemingly inexplicable behavior.  It all comes down to sexual selection and the availability of high quality mates, as well as what the tendencies of different types of mates will be.  It’s well known that women prefer men of status, however depending on her desirability; these may be unobtainable, at least for a long term relationship like marriage.  In addition the higher a man’s status, the more reproductive opportunities he has.  Therefore, in the interests of a stable relationship, or of necessity, women will seek marriage with a somewhat less high-status male who possesses the qualities of fidelity and being a reliable father.  It’s the 30 year old computer programmer effect, in college he was nobody, but women express more interest when they are ready to settle down in their late twenties.  Has he become more attractive?  Only insofar as he will serve her interests as a reliable father.  Meanwhile, the female knows that an Alpha Male son will have the potential to produce many more offspring than either a faithful beta male or a daughter.  Consequently when fertile she often seeks out extra-pair couplings to become inseminated by the carrier of a higher quality genome, while relying on the poor besotted sap to care for the young and provide.  This is addressed in this article as follows:

In human females cyclic shifts in preference have been documented for odour and physical and behavioral male traits. Women prefer the smell of dominant males, more masculine male faces and men behaving more dominantly when at peak fertility than at other times in their menstrual cycle. Here we examine variation in preferences for body sexual dimorphism. Across two studies, both between- and within-participant, we show that women prefer greater masculinity in male bodies at times when their fertility is likely highest, in the follicular phase of their cycle. Shifts were seen when rating for a short-term but not when rating for a long-term relationship. In line with studies showing similar effects for facial sexual dimorphism, we also show that women prefer greater masculinity when they think themselves attractive than when they think themselves less attractive. These results indicate that women’s preferences for sexual dimorphism in male bodies follow a similar pattern as found for sexual dimorphism and dominance in other domains and such differences in preference may serve a similar function. Cyclic preferences could influence women to select partners when most likely to become pregnant that possess traits that may be most likely to maximize their offspring’s quality via attraction to masculinity or serve to help acquire investment via attraction to femininity.

Note the Alpha Male characteristics she seeks out are a better physique and more masculine characteristics, indicators of a more robust genome and higher testosterone levels.  We see then that this behavior is indicative of a biological imperative because it confers a reproductive advantage to the women who leave the chump to try to win the actual Alpha father into a long-term relationship, or raise their child alone.  They are willing to spin the Roulette wheel of truth in the hopes that you, hapless chump, don’t bother to fact-check them. 

Again I reiterate: you must get a paternity test for all children you ostensibly sire.  Even though in marriage, this wouldn’t prevent your obligation for a child not your own, it would at least prevent having further children of other men with this woman and being on the hook to care for them too, not to mention the dishonor of living this lie forever.  If you aren’t married to the mother, excellent, you just dodged the bullet and can go on to commit your resources to your own offspring, or at least make a conscious decision to carry another man’s baggage.  Be advised that your partner will swear up and down that she isn’t that kind of girl, that you have nothing to worry about, that you don’t trust her and all manner of emotional attacks to try to get you to relent, particularly if she has something to hide.  Do not listen to her.  Do yourself a favor and make this paternity testing a policy along with establishing a pre-nup prior to marriage in each and every case.  Don’t let your conviction waver with her admonitions that if you really loved her you wouldn’t require such things.  It’s all smoke and mirrors, the potential for these deceptions is coded into a woman’s genes as surely as attraction to the young jiggling bodies on the beach is burned into yours.  Any woman could be “that type of woman” depending on circumstance and her emotional state. 

Be an Alpha and use your own self-determination in plotting your course in life or you stand a major risk of being recruited to a life of obscurity, your genetic legacy cuckolded and the respect of your partner fading to contempt at your ignorance and lack of intuition.  Men who roll over to women’s demands and deceptions end up sacrificing their relationships in any case, as no woman appreciates and respects a pushover.