Comments on: The Disillusionment of the Dominant Female

By: Jason

Jason — Fri, 30 Jul 2010 13:04:23 +0000

I think all of it is true. And it’s not whiny. It’s just that dealing with the rainbow of female emotions is simply too exhausting. And I’m a lazy man.

I really wonder if women actually ever listen to themselves. I don’t care how clever you girls think you are. I’ve heard enough long stories from girls where they subject each other to complex dominance games, for the resolution of some hapless manager, to make me doubt it. I’m with the author on this one. I don’t want to hear about what rumour Betty in accounts is spreading about you. Shut up. Oh, for the love of God, please, shut up!

By: admin

admin — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 16:45:01 +0000

Another satisfied customer. Keep reading Adi.

By: Adi

Adi — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 16:35:43 +0000

Ah great. Another expert who’s figured out what it means to be a “real man”.

Here’s something real for you:
I’m sick and tired of people telling me what I should be and do in order to qualify as a real man.
I’m sick of people thrusting gender obligations onto me.
I’m sick of women who, just because they want a ‘daddy’ think that anyone who doesn’t match that profile, is a wimp or not real or whatever.

What the hell qualifies you to make such bold, totalitarian claims about the entire population? (don’t answer that)

So stop bloody well telling us what to do and how to behave……. if its not too much trouble.

Peace.

By: admin

admin — Wed, 13 Jan 2010 23:50:31 +0000

Of course the basics of civility and respect where deserved should be afforded to men and women alike. The key is not treating women solicitously and more specially than you would any other friend. The golden rule and developing integrity and character are prerequisites to becomeing a leader of men, which is a true Alpha. To some extent you can fake it til you make it, but the wise will see though you. You can sometimes bend psychologically unhealthy women to your will without civility, but they are damaged goods and more trouble/risk than they are worth. In the end the edgy and charismatic man with character and integrity will win more hearts than the others of either extreme, either sociopathic or milquetoast.

By: Steve

Steve — Wed, 13 Jan 2010 22:53:37 +0000

I think your article has swung the pendulum to the other end of the spectrum. I have been the nice guy; now I’m pursuing my dreams and certainly don’t care what women think of me.

However, I feel that to blend the two is how to win the minds and hearts of women, that is, to be a nice guy with bad boy qualities. To clarify, I mean treat women with a degree of respect, empathy and equality, but to actually BE confident, somewhat cocksure, gutsy and significantly selfish.

I find this works an absolute treat. They say nice guys finish last, but so do bad boys ultimately. Blend the two if you can. They both show strength.

By: ACE FREELY

ACE FREELY — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 13:40:44 +0000

Greatness: “You must be the rock that their waves of emotion break upon.”

By: admin

admin — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 01:48:15 +0000

For most people self-improvement is a process. There’s no retaliatory aspect to learning to live better and meet your needs. Nobody has to be an alpha and I’m not saying everyone should be. There is a balance between alpha and beta, and you’re right, when women approach the end of their marketability as top-shelf they do turn to betas because they see them as long-term candidates versus short term, and they want to cash in their chips while they can still get top dollar. If one wants to get laid rather than married however, the alpha characteristics will accomplish this. It’s well documented that women seek alpha men for short-term dalliance and beta men for relationship. However you care to define whiny most women don’t view alpha males as whiny or they wouldn’t be attracted to them. In fact, betas are much more likely to be whiny, emotionally manipulative and passive aggressive. What I present here goes far beyond being a “pick-up artist.” A classic PUA is often someone who has to resort to deception to get laid, because they don’t have the inner character to back up what it takes to get women attracted naturally. Men stand to gain something from that community to get them through the learning curve but the endgame should be to be naturally sexually attractive to women. When you are an alpha you don’t have to resort to such ploys to get female attention, and the women you attract will likewise have inner character to back up their game.

By: silly beans

silly beans — Sat, 30 May 2009 07:20:39 +0000

What I’m saying is that MANY women think the “you got be an alpha!” sounds whiny. Extremely whiny and off-putting.

My marriage is not a marriage of equals: he´s a man. I´m a woman. He´s strong and manly and at the same time he adores me.

The only times I´ve lost (momentarily) respect for him were the times he treated me like the guy in the article says men should treat women: ignoring them.

Many interesting women are turned off by that attitude of the “pick-up artist” (who is basically a loser who fucks insecure chicks). The moment they realize he’s playing according to the rules of a bad high-school love drama film, they get bummed out. And turn to the oh-so-disdained “beta male”.

Women hate whininess above all else. The “alpha dominance” shtick DOES sound whiny – like some kind of unnatural “retaliation” for something the man doesn’t have in him in the first place.

By: admin

admin — Mon, 25 May 2009 09:05:57 +0000

Congrats, you have found an undemanding man to put you on a pedestal, too bad you will lose respect for him if you have not already. In awe of you? That hardly sounds like a marriage of equals, just wait until the denouement. Nice guys are wimpy and the vast majority of women admire strength in a man. If you are an exception, I guess you’re lucky to have found a man in whom you inspire “awe.” I’m sure the ravishing will pass in due time as you lose respect for him if you aren’t already embellishing the facts.

As for the author, in his relationship he made a number of errors, firstly marrying a woman his senior and superior in income. Nonetheless he is able to keep her interested which is an achievement. I wouldn’t recommend trying this strategy if happiness is one’s goal but that’s not to say it couldn’t happen.

Don’t worry about my prospects, my eyes are wide open and I prefer to inspire the awe myself.

By: silly beans

silly beans — Mon, 25 May 2009 07:52:42 +0000

“He basically was a house husband that did all the cooking (plus wrote his first novel).”

Congrats, you admire a guy who cooks and cleans for his wife while she’s out there making money to buy him toys. And you don’t even wince when confronted with the fact.

My husband is the epitome of the nice guy/ “beta male” you despise. He’s in awe of me, he pleases me, listens to what I say and is never condescending. I like pleasing him like a geisha would when the mood strikes. And he also ravishes me every night like there’s no tomorrow.

The article you quote was written by a loser who desperately needs to cling to the idea a man cannot possibly be in awe of a woman and want to fuck her like a whore at the same time. That’s the relationship he has with his wife.

I’m all for manly men and girly women and for the seduction game, but if you think the “nice guys finish last, you gotta treat her like a bad boy” DOESN’T sound whiny and bitchy, you’re mistaken.

Wake up before you pass the opportunity of meeting great women (who either want to marry or not).